"Lord the feelings are not the same. I guess I'm older. I guess I've changed. And how I wish it had been explained that as you're growing you must remember that nothing lasts except the Grace of God by which I stand ..." Keith Green (Song - "Grace By Which I Stand")
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January 2008 - Recovery Section of Borderline Personality From The Inside Out
Welcome to this newest section of my web site. I will be adding much more about recovery so I hope you will keep checking back. I'd really like to hear from those of you anywhere on the road to recovery, those of you, who like me, have recovered, or anyone feels like they can't find the path to get on to be on the road to recovery. I'd welcome your sharing with me what you wouldn't mind sharing with those who come to this site. While this new section will reflect a lot of my own experience with recovery I sure hope to hear from others who would like to share their experience and voice on this subject as well.
January 20, 2008Recovery from BPD is Possible
Many still think that recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is either not possible or highly controversial. As someone who has recovered from BPD, I know that it is possible and does happen.
A New Audio Program "Preparing For Recovery From BPD" Parts 1 & 2 by A.J. Mahari
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Jan 23/08 A New Audio Program Rage Addiction in BPD by A.J. Mahari (sold separately or packaged with
Mahari's Ebook, "Rage and BPD")
A.J. also has an Audio program available now on the subject of CHANGE
I address a large part of the awareness and insight required to actively be in the process of recovery in my "Core Wound of Abandonment in BPD" (© A.J. Mahari) series of ebooks that includes, 3 that are currently available - The Abandoned Pain of Borderline Personality Disorder The Legacy of Abandonment in Borderline Personality Disorder and The Shadows and Echoes of Self - The False Self Born Out of The Core Wound of Abandonment in Borderline Personality Disorder (5 in total - with 2 more coming in the spring of 2008). I also have an ebook out on the subject of BPD and Rage The Storms in the absence of a known self
Borderline Personality Disorder is a multi-layered and multifacted complex and serious personality disorder. However, it can be recovered from. It is like an emotional lake that each person diagnosed with BPD must learn to swim across, in both calm waters and stormy waters to reach the shores of the mainland of mental health.
I am someone who has recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder. This is why I am positive that it can be done. What I will be writing here and the ebooks and audio programs that will also be available here in the near future will all be focused on the road to recovery from BPD. I have charted that course in the emotional lake of my own experience. I hope to provide assitance to those who have BPD in learning to chart the course of recovery from BPD - in learning how to swim the waters that are the challenging emotional waters of the lake that is your damaged psyche.
When one has Borderline Personality Disorder, one does not have a known "self". This means that in trying to navigate the emotional waters of your personality that you do not have a reliable boat or vehicle that you can pilot across this lake. This means that you have to learn how to swim. It is in the learning how to swim the often choppy emotional waters of your experience in life that you will find a self, a boat, a vehicle that will provide you with more effective transportation in the emotional waters of life's experience and perception, in time.
In this section of this web site which has four domains really - borderlinepersonality.ca - bpdrecovery.ca - bpdinsideout.com - borderlinepersonality.org - I will be writing about what recovery from BPD is, what it looks like, what it feels like, and what it takes to first get on the road to recovery, what that means, and how one can not only stay on that road to recovery, but, how you can actually recover. The professional community (many - not all) do not seem to want to admit that recovery from BPD is possible, let alone outline what that might look like. We must be mindful that much of the mental health delivery system (and much of what many who work in it ascribe to - again - not all) is not really focused on long-term recovery, or mapping that out or defining it for that matter. They seem to be increasingly focused more and more on short-term "bandaid" type therapy that is often dictated to these systems by funding issues.
If you have Borderline Personality Disorder, please keep checking back here for much more information coming soon. You must find HOPE. HOPE acts like floatation devices if you will, that will help you to rest, from time to time, on your swim that from the shore of BPD to the shores of the mainland of mental health. As always, my message here is one of hope. Those with BPD have every reason to hope. What goes along with hope, in and for recovery, is learning to take personal responsibility for making the choices necessary to ensure that you get across the lake that is your journey to chart and to swim from BPD to mental health.
© A.J. Mahari - December 29, 2007
Jan 21/08 A New Audio Program "Preparing For Recovery From BPD" Parts 1 & 2 by A.J. Mahari
Jan 23/08 A New Audio Program Rage Addiction in BPD by A.J. Mahari (sold separately or packaged with
Mahari's Ebook, "Rage and BPD")
A.J. has an Audio program available now on the subject of CHANGE
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The Truth Is That You Do Not Have To Wait For Professional Permission To Recover or For Professional Definition of Recovery.
It is that very belief, that recovery can't be or isn't possible because the professional community has not mapped it out, defined it, and in many cases do not believe it is possible, that will limit your potential and ability to get on and stay on the road to recovery. In order to be able to recover, you must believe in the possibility and potential of that recovery - no matter what anyone else tries to tell you.
Each individual person with BPD, while sharing common traits with all diagnosed with BPD, is still an individual. Each person with BPD has the potential to come to the awareness that he or she truly does have the personal power to be the author of his or her own recovery from BPD with skilled professional help from the professionals that do support the belief of recovery. Do not limit yourself to the negative and unproven beliefs of any professional who tries to limit your potential for recovery.
Hope, which is central to recovery is such a fragile thing for most with BPD. If you let anyone tell you that you can't get better, and you believe them, you then limit your own growth and healing potential. It's a little bit like what people say about the odds of winning a lottery. You can't even have a chance to win a lottery if you do not buy a ticket, right? Buying a ticket in a lottery is a chance taken that often doesn't end up with the winning of any money. Seeking to recover from BPD is often a long process. During much of that process, at least initially, you may feel like the numbers have already been called and your ticket wasn't a winner. You may often feel like you aren't getting anywhere or nothing is changing. That is only true, though, if you believe it. That is a limiting illusion. Much of the reality of growth and change in recovery from BPD is that it is often three steps forward to take to two steps back to take another step forward and so on. It is a process - a journey. It is not unlike purchasing that lottery ticket and then having to wait a substantial period of time to hear those winning recovery numbers read aloud and to make the discovery that you really have "won" - or in the case of BPD - recovered. It is not uncommon to not hear those numbers as they are called by the way. That's why it is so important to believe in yourself and in your process. Remember, too, that while one is on the road to recovery and in whatever stage of that recovery you are in, you may well not, as of yet, have the awareness of just how far you've come or how far you are getting. So, be patient. There is no one yard stick to measure your progress. As your awareness increases so too will your ability to gauge your own progress.
By the way, if you have BPD and you are feeling like being hard on yourself or you think = borderline "feel" that you are "totally" stuck and there isn't any hope for you to get on the road to recovery, please know that even being or feeling lost has purpose on the over-all journey. Begin with radically accepting wherever you are today safe in the knowledge that you are working toward opening up to the awareness you can choose to welcome in that will provide you with what you most need to know at this juncture of your journey, to not only sustain you but to help you to move forward, however slowly, even. Relax, don't judge yourself, now. keep searching for hope and faith. Keep believing in possibility no matter how you may currently feel.
© A.J. Mahari January 8, 2008
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